Don't You Think It's Time?

"Hey Beautiful! Can I have your phone number?" "Girl, your feet must be tired, because you've been running through my mind all day." "Excuse me sir, I think you dropped this." "Boy, I can make you the happiest man alive!" Etc. Etc. Etc.

All of these cliche-ish pick-up lines have been heard by pretty much everyone you know, including yourself. The funny thing about this known fact is; We as human beings STILL fall for them! (LOL) Why? You may ask because I, too, ponder the thought. While I will never profess to have a PHD in Relationship Expertism; I have had enough 'time in' one to be able to give you my unbiased opinion.

This thought came to me while I was preparing for church. I stood at my vanity and a dear friend crossed my mind. Well actually, it was a chain reaction. When I thought of her, others followed and I came to the conclusion or should I say, 'Question' asking; 'Don't you think it's time?'

Okay, let me back up and give you my reason for asking this so you will understand where I am coming from. I have witnessed several people, but women in general; myself included, who have fallen for the pick-up lines from the past; only to be left wondering where the person you fell for is. In the beginning (the moments after the introduction), all seems well. You talk frequently. You may even go out on several dates. The inevitable happens. And contrary to popular belief, everything is still ok. Now, after the repetitious cycle of conversations, dates, sex, etc., something happens. Well actually; the something that happens is nothing. The phone calls either decrease or stop. The dates are fewer and farther apart. And the sex, whatever kind it is; happens on a 'need it' basis(as if the other person were some sort of commodity). The problem I find with this type of setup is; one of the persons are left wondering, "Why? What happened? Is there something wrong with me? Etc. Or one may even ask themselves, "Why and how did I allow this to happen to me again?" (Now that 'again' word we won't get into because that is a whole 'nother issue where self-esteem is the root.) So... I will return to my question.

"Don't You Think It's Time?" (Time to do what? You may ask.)

It's time for a change! It's time for you to realize that in order for you to be happy in any relationship, you must set and know the bounderies IN THE BEGINNING. If the beginning has already passed for you, you have to pick up from where you are now, face the direction you intend to go and and head there! If you don't, you will always be stuck wondering. So...I ask you again; Don't you think it's time...to leave him or her alone? They have already left you. Whether it is emotionally or physically. And please don't get me started on if another woman/man is involved. You already know It's Time! Past Time! To do something different. Something Better! Like...per se...Love yourself enough? Enough to let go? Enough to live? Enough to be happy? Enough to know that you deserve better? Enough is Enough! It's time out for you feeling like you are inadequate because someone else doesn't know your worth! How could they if You don't? I'll stop for now and at the risk of redundancy, I will ask you one more time....

Don't you think it's time? I KNOW I DO!

~A. Life...

Writing Secret Wounds and Hidden Pain~ The Novel

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Hey Everybody! I would first like to thank you all for your support in my endeavors! It has been and is my pleasure to display my works for all to see! And even more than that, I love and welcome your honest opinions, comments, and concerns. So feel free to give me your feedback. It only makes me better! =))

Ok... Many people have come to me asking me who my characters are based on and if for some reason, they are based on them. Let me be the first to say that None of my characters are based on people as individuals as they are compilations of human beings! =))

I am actually flattered when someone comes to me with such query because it is my endeavor to make my writings relate to life as it exists. I, myself, have gone through many things in my short life and I am proud to say, "I don't look like what I've been through!" You will always find cases in my novels that pertain to everyday life and I pray, if you should find one that relates to you...that the outcome of the character inspires you to continue your journey and walk of Faith!

You will read in my bio, other publications, and my site, etc. that I am not an author who pushes Christianity! Now, for those of you who just gasped, let me make it very clear what I mean. I am Christian! I love Jesus! And I Am Not Ashamed by No Means! I AM A CHRISTIAN AUTHOR! The words of my works flow from a pen written by an author who IS Christian! My novels are Christian-based! It will always be my goal to have readers finish my books with a renewed sense of being and hope because they will have seen or read about a character with which they can relate and that same character will have triumphed in one way or another. Who doesn't like a happy ending? I know I do! So...Pushing Christianity is not my job! Jesus pushes himself on no one! He simply led the way! And I am to follow HIM! Now if one should follow my works, it is my prayer that they come to know and follow Christ as I do!

~A.Life...

IT'S ALREADY ALRIGHT!!!

Who told you that you weren't enough? Who said that you'd never amount to anything? Who made a comment about you to somebody else when they didn't even have the facts straight? Who was it? & Where 'day at now? (Because you need to pass this tidbit of infomation on to'em...lol)

Sometimes we find ourselves trying to change for what we "think" is better and/or what we "heard" was better! All the while, sitting and gazing at the possibility of being something, someone, or somewhere different than we are right now; continue to plague us.

Well please allow me to throw a factual thought at you. You listenin'? I hope so, because I am here to tell you...IT'S ALREADY ALRIGHT!

What you look like; IS NOT who you are! What you feel like; is not the way you will feel forever. And what somebody told you; Certainly, Doesn't Determine Your Destiny! Now I could go on about what somebody said about me. And I can't tell you how many times I've been hurt before by those same words...BUT...I choose NOW to believe that... IT'S ALREADY ALRIGHT!

~So what my hair ain't as straight as yours! Heck! That's what they made relaxers for!
~You think what'chu got on makes you look better than me? Ha! At the risk of not hurting your feelings, let me remind you that My Confidence, NOT my clothes, Keeps Me Beautifully Standing Taller Than Any Mountain of Hate you try to put in my way!
~You a little smaller and shapelier than me? Please, please, please...let me set the record straight. It's not about the size of the Notion- BUT...the Motion in the Ocean of my mind! (Oh yeah, even dogs want meat on the bone. And if you've noticed or payed any attention, you'd realize that the bones are primarily USED to clean their teeth...But...the meat fills the stomach! (Hey! LOL) So, they chew on you (skinny girl) and spit you out so they can Digest Me!

Okay, let me be serious now...(Not!) but, I do want to give you a little food for thought to inspire you into not only believing but knowing that...IT'S ALREADY ALRIGHT!

God created you in His Likeness and in His Image! And although the enemy has his folk tell you otherwise, you must remember that fact. If you look like God...You already alright! You may not talk like God all the time and you may not act like God all the time...But while you're on your way...You already alright! When you are 'like' something or someone, you are not them because there can only be one! I say that to say; God is God all by Himself and He created you to be you and nobody else! To hell with what people think about you, say about you, or even feel about you! You are only what you believe and that should be...the only option available, which is... You said it! IT'S ALREADY ALRIGHT!

Now, I do understand that you may be going through something right now; and you may even question why I speak in past tense; But just as Jesus was being beaten with many stripes and hung on the cross for you and I; He spoke in past tense and He said, as I say to you; YOU ARE HEALED from folk and everything else that mean you no good. And the pain from all the things that you have gone through and are going through IS FINISHED...if you believe...Right Now....IT'S ALREADY ALRIGHT!!!
~ A. Life